We all know that conflict in this world is inevitable. The question is, how will we handle it? Unresolved conflicts in any relationship, Christian or secular only benefits the plan of Satan to "...steal, kill and destroy." But through biblical resolution we are able to see Christ bring "..life and to have it more abundantly." (John 10:10)
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Settle matters quickly with your adversary.”
The importance of God's Word underscores Jesus’s priorities about conflict resolution and mending the break in any relationship.
"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses."
These passages, viewed together, form a powerful picture of an obedient and humbled individual who is willing to take the high ground in order to bring honor to Christ: When we have offended someone, we should take the initiative (Matt. 5:23–26); when someone has offended us, we also should take the initiative (Matt. 18:15–16). In either case, Jesus calls us to take the first step toward pursuing peace with others.
Christ's apostles echoed the same need for active-diligent-immediate conflict resolution:
“So I strive always to keep my conscience clear before God and man” (Acts 24:16).
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Rom. 12:18).
“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification” (Rom. 14:19).
“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Eph. 4:3).
“Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart” (2 Tim. 2:22).
“Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord” (Heb. 12:14).
The overall result of these afore mentioned verses should close the door on any selfishness, complacency or passiveness. Instead, they compel us as Christians to cry out for the Holy Spirit’s help in resolving conflict that serves Christ first then others.
These passages also mean, contrary to popular belief, that time heals all wounds. Conflicts unresolved are like an open wound that without the medication of God's word and obedience to it will not mend themselves. People are not always capable “getting over” words and actions that may have been inflicted by hurtful words and actions that contradict the love of Christ. Instead, unresolved conflicts go underground, surfacing later, and sometimes with greater anger, animosity, or rejection, and possibly the rejection of God and His Word. That’s why resolving and reconciling conflicts and disagreements requires hard work. The above verses demand action and is the formula for resolving and healing conflicts. The question that must always be asked on our part is this, how much do I value others and their feelings? Peacemaking is not easy or optional, but it is possible and it can open the door for a powerful manifestation of God's love and grace for all to see and benefit from.